A MEMOIR ABOUT THE 2009 MURDER OF MY SON JUSTIN COSBY ON THE GROUNDS OF HARVARD UNIVERSITY, THE AGONGY OF DEALING WITH THE MURDER OF A CHILD, NAVIGATING THE LEGAL SYSTE, COPING AFTER THE FACT AND RESOURCES TO EXPLORE CHOICES AND DECISION THAT COULD CHANGE THE FABRIC OF LIVES.
A mother is Love. A mother is strength. A mother is a nurturer? A mother is one of the most patient people on earth. A mother can be biological or not. She gives many chances and have taken much crap from her Young yet she stands strong behind them. She takes care of her young or the young she has come to know as her children. A mother is a teacher doctor and a preacher.
Mother’s Day means so many things to different people. Mother’s Day is a day set aside to recognize all mothers or persons whom have acted as mothers. Mothers are sometimes not the woman who birthed you but she is the woman who supported you through thick and thin, doctored you when you were sick, listened to you when nobody else cared and loved you no matter what. You could always depend on a mother to pick you up when you are down. No matter what disagreements have come and gone, a mother’s love endures.
Mother’s Day is one of the most deserved and recognized days of the year. It is a day when we tell our Mothers how much we love them and appreciate them. It is also a day mothers look forward too because they know their most precious jewels will make them smile by showing them how much they appreciate and love them. Many are flourished with special dinners, cards, flowers, gifts and moments. Some are just happy to be able to hear their children’s voice. No matter the method of communication when a child shows love to his mother, Mother’s Day usually leaves memories that mothers take to the grave with them.
My mother died about 20 years ago. I still remember her teachings, scoldings, support and most of all love she showed me. 20 years later, I still have cards and mementos she gave me for inspiration and motivation. I know my mother’s love still endures.
The best day of my life was when I became a mother. Even though I went through long hard labors, the reward outweighed the pain. My first child Shenita, a girl; someone to dress up, teach to become a young lady and groom for woman hood. Shenita has become an amazing young woman and I thank God for her every day. Shenita has been a gift and I am very proud of her.
www.survivingmurder1.com extends its sincerest condolences to Odin Lloyd’s family who was murdered on June 17, 2013 in North Attleboro, MA. We also extend our congratulations and best wishes to Odin’s family for enduring a long successful trial that came to fruition on April 15, 2015. The killer – Aaron Hernandez, ex-New England Patriot’s football player celebrity status kept this story headlining national and international news for almost two years. After nearly 7 days (36 hours) of deliberations the jury returned a verdict of GUILTY of first-degree murder in Odin’s death. Aaron Hernandez is now being held accountable for his heinous actions he committed on Odin Lloyd. In fact, the murder was described as extreme atrocity and cruelty “execution style of a helpless man”. The Judge sentenced Aaron Hernandez to serve life in prison without the possibility of parole.
As I listened to the impact statements of Odin’s mother Mrs. Ursual Ward, his sister and uncle my heart dropped. I felt as though I was having a flashback. Through her words, I relived my son Justin’s verdict and my family’s response to the verdict. No mother knows a pain of another mother who has loss her child other than another mother who has walked through the same valley of death. Odin’s mother expressed some of the same thoughts about her son Odin as I did about my son Justin in my impact statement. I heard her say she missed his big smile, her son calling out to her “Mom Dukes where are you going?” What are you doing? Kidding with her by asking her, “who told you that you could go out today”? What are you cooking mom and mom you look beautiful.” Those words were some of the same words my son used to say to me and I would like Mrs. Ward to know I feel her pain!!! In addition, it just made it clearer that so many parents who have lost children to murder share exactly the same sentiments and memories. However, thank God, we have memories that will always elicit a smile and warm thoughts of our loss.